I Just cannot.
Many things that happen in your life are out of your control, yet impact you greatly. It may be a great loss of a loved one or friend, or that you are in a household where you feel like you are not understood, or it may be a break up of a relationship that was going well for a number of years.
People will react differently to these situations. Some will be upset for a very short period of time, and move on as if nothing happened. Others will get so broken down, they feel that they should somehow take a leave of absence from life, and just bury themselves in a box of pizza, a bowl of popcorn, and be one with reruns of New Girl.
The worst can be when you think you have recovered completely, and one small thing triggers you to spiral back, and you become worse than before. You don’t feel like making any contact with any living thing, or doing anything remotely physical. Food? Ugh, disgusting.
You miss a few lectures, meetings or important gatherings without even feeling bad.
Yes, that is okay, but not over a long period of time. Your road to recovery starts with the very things you are avoiding.
As humans, we are designed to crave human interaction. You may sometimes feel ‘not today’ when someone knocks at your door. If they’re coming to check up on you, let them in. You don’t even have to answer them, but that fact that there is some communication, although limited, it will uplift your mood slightly. If you have a fury friend, let them in too. Cuddling with your dog will trigger happiness.
While you’re still in your bubble, plug in your earphones and go for a walk outside. Any form of physical activity will increase your energy levels, and burn those little bugs that stitch your clothes tighter — calories. Slowly increase your workouts.
Food makes EVERYONE happy. Don’t fight it. You don’t have to cut off all the amazing sweets and biscuits, and mouthwatering pizzas, but rather substitute. Chocolate has qualities which release endorphins — happy chappies. Flapjacks, topped with fruit, a dollop of cream and drizzled with chocolate will do the trick. Your energy and sugar levels will increase, but not so much to give you a ringing headache.
Avoiding things won’t make them go away. Talking about them helps you get them off your chest. If you don’t trust anyone, pen and paper are great friends — jot down your thoughts, and that will help you make sense of things.
Going through a rough pit if darkness does not mean you are weak, it just means that you are human (thank goodness). It doesn’t mean other people are stronger than you are, it’s just that you have strength where they might lack it.
Learn to embrace your life and whatever comes with it, whether negative or positive. The universe wants you to win!